Dating App: Feeld
Why did I download that? Oh, because someone in the Tiktok comments said that's where you can meet the polyamory community. I
thought it's where people go to find threesomes. I guess both is true. But I do need to get out of the house more, so.
First of all the app is super buggy in my phone. Most of the time profile picture don't load or only a few of them. I guess I shouldn't be so superficial and just focus on the descriptions...
Otherwise the handling is fairly normal and there's this kind of practical feature where you swipe left and the person doesn't get deleted from your feed, they're just... on hold? You have to touch the minus button to un-chose them. I don't know, that comes in handy sometimes, especially when I can't see photos and can come back.
There is quite some space for free text, which I appreciate. Some people use it, some don't but it's definitely an option and it's not rare that people take the opportunity to write a bit about themselves. To me that's always helpful in figuring out if I am interested in the person.
Secondly the app does focus on all things sexual - you can add tags of your preferences to your profile, add a secret message for connections, hidden photos. And there's a whole questionnaire about your practices and kinks to fill out. I didn't finish it and can only assume that you can then send the result to your connections.
You can add partners to your profile - so Feeld obviously is for polyam people. And it's for couples looking for someone to join in a threesome. The cliche of unicorn hunters is very well represented here and... that's ok. It's interesting to see that the overwhelming majority of couples looking for a third is male-female and mostly looking for another woman. Just interesting.
Oh, and in the first few minutes I got swamped in Likes! Flooded. By men. That's interesting, too. I just uploaded my photos, hadn't written a single word into my profile. Like after like after like. So ultimately I - once again, like on every dating app - had to adjust my settings: no cis men. They will just like everything that looks vaguely feminine. Won't read the description, don't care for personal connection. It's frustrating and sad. I can't even tell if at this point I might be interested in meeting a cis-het guy... No, actually I'm pretty sure I don't wanna.
What do I want, though. I need new experiences and I need a social life. Honestly I need new friends. And I'm sure new sexperiences would improve my mental health. But to be honest the sexual content on the app currently feels overwhelming. Which is not good. My confidence is gone. And how do you even meet people because
when do you even meet people. It's either "let's not chat too long and meet immediately" (yeah, I can't do that because this week is kids-week and next week I already have two social things and the rest of the week I need for creative work and decompensating from being social. Or it's a long correspondence via messenger and I really really suck at those.
Bottom line: Feeld is an ok dating app if you're looking for sex stuff and even if you're not you can probably find nice people and I might just stay a hermit for the next ten years.
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